People never are who they seem to be. Everyone, no matter how real, has a secret side. A side that only comes out in unique circumstances. A side that simply doesn’t fit with the rest of their personality. Maybe they are ashamed of it, maybe they fear this side will be rejected by their peers. Whatever the reason, we all have it somewhere within us and try to hide it. There is one emotion that leads most of us to show this side to other, an emotion that makes us all vulnerable, an emotion that brings out the best and worse in us. This emotion is called love.
If you can describe love, you have never been in it. People talk about love like it’s a game, like we are all expected to know how to play and what it’s like to be with someone who they completely desire and can be utterly happy. This is not the case for all of us. As a former slave to the idea that there is someone for all of us, I know that just because we are in love does not been we are completely happy or fulfilled with it. You may be happy being with that person but love has so many dimensions that it’s impossible to be happy with all of them at once. When you fall in love with someone, you open up to them completely. Even if you don’t know you’ve done it, you do show them part of your secret side, maybe not all of it but enough of it to make you the weakest person in the world.
Falling in love is like taking a fall in real life. You don’t feel pain at first, but no matter hhow long you fall for, you will always hit the bottom and feel pain. Sometimes the pains not too sore but if you have let yourself fall too far, it can kill you. Maybe not death in the way we think about it when reading the newspaper or when we contemplate what happens after this life but the death of something more painfull. Our heart. When someone extra-ordinary leaves your life, they always take a piece of us with them to use and learn from in the future. Some people take more than their fair share but there will always be greedy people in this life.
You can’t fake it or misunderstand what people mean when they say they love you. Love is love. It’s indescribable, its a force greater than time and distance because if it’s real, it can defy both. It’s a force that bounds the most unlikely people together and can make or break our lives. At some point, it will break us. Either from the death or a break-up. Everything in this world comes to an end, it’s inevitable. Everything in life also changes. The person you fall in love with will not be the same person they will be 10 years later, you will not be the same person after you fall in love with them because you will learn new things, experience new things and feel new things that change the tiniest parts of you. You may not know it but everyone you meet changes you in some way or another.
I’m going to conclude this blog by saying that love is a bit like getting drunk. You never forget the first time you get drunk. The first time you get drunk doesn’t take much alcohol but as you get drinking more and more often, it take a bit longer to do so. However, even heavyweights are still prone to vulnerability every now and again. The most important comparison though is the fact that when you are drunk, you change. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, but either way, you are still vulnerable.